It’s The Holidays Again… But Already?

• By clane
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• On November 18, 2013
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The holiday season is upon us once again. With the passage of another year comes the promise of renewal. I love this time of year! Fiery red leaves forced off their branches by a blustery gust of wind, fall to their new home, carpeting the ground I walk on. The crisp air invigorates, and a renewed sense of hope is ushered in with Autumn. This is a time for transition. Tis the season to be jolly, the old adage goes. Thanksgiving reminds us to have gratitude for the abundance in our world. Before we’ve tasted our turkey, store windows are already hinting at Christmas cheer to come. But, how many of us are really happy?

I’ve noticed over the years that I think a lot about what I’ve accomplished, and what I’d like to achieve in the New Year. This is usually motivated both by a feeling that I am not enough, and by the desire to be happy. Have you ever felt that way? Yet ever the eternal optimist, I’m also driven by anticipation as I discover what’s around the next corner. This internal friction has led to heartbreaking setbacks in my pursuit of success, but also a renewed determination as I stretch out of my comfort zone, forcing me to grow. Every year I discover more about who I am, and what I need to be happy. Therapists and life coaches have been a valuable part of my healing journey. Here’s what I’ve learned….

Acceptance is key. Let’s begin with acceptance of what we don’t like. Life isn’t fair. Death, divorce, and betrayal are a part of our lives. For everything there is a season and a time to mourn. A positive mental attitude is not about denial of how bad it is. It’s a mind set that there is hope. Tomorrow is a new day. And it will be better in the morning. It is also about gratitude for the abundance that is already around us, learning how to tap into it as a resource that can propel us to even greater things to come. Let go of lack! Begin with acceptance of yourself, flaws and all. Right here! Right now!

Can you appreciate how far you’ve come, in spite of daunting set backs? Are you aware of what’s right about you. We focus on what we dislike about ourselves, but self esteem comes from being full of ones self, the good, the bad, and the ugly. When you appreciate the resiliency and courage it took for you to get this far in life, you are then empowered to use those strengths to clarify your goals, wishes, and dreams. And the more you focus on those things you want, the more excited you become, and the more action you will take towards attracting what you want.

You will have painful setbacks. You will learn from failure, enabling you to make course corrections. The universe will match your intention. Your commitment to your own personal growth will attract abundance in all areas of your life. But, you have to let go of your fear of failure and take some risks! That’s right! The bad news is that you have to move out of your comfort zone. Life is an adventure, and with the journey comes uncertainty. But, it is exactly this discomfort that will lead to greater awareness of yourself, and to greater self esteem, as you realize what you’re made of. You see, you have always been more than enough. You are perfect the way you are!

So what now? Well, while you are clarifying next year’s goals, appreciate the abundance that is already there! We take so much for granted. Start by assessing your strengths. Then look around and appreciate the people who support and enrich your life. Happy people cultivate meaningful connections with others. Be present for all that life offers. Make time to mourn, but don’t get stuck there. Cut your losses. Believe in your ability to realize your dreams! Enjoy a warm blanket, a hot cup of tea, some comfort food. Enjoy the company of good people, as we all huddle up for the coming Winter rain. And don’t forget Spring is coming! Happy Thanksgiving!